Complete Security with Complete Surrender

OK, imagine this. You and your girlfriend have broken up two and half months ago. It was her senior year (you are older) and now you are remembering things that you wanted to do with her at the end of her senior year. Chief among these things are going to events such as a prom or perhaps being able to sit back and enjoy her graduation. Are these not things that significant others look forward to most? Now, you have believed with all your heart that you and her would "end up together", i.e. marriage and a life " 'til death do us part." You've broken up, remember?
Oh yeah...now what? What can you do now that the time of year for prom and graduation has rolled along and you are suddenly confronted with memories, ideas, and wishes of what could have been. Instead, all you face is the ugly mask of negativism. You think you're bad and that you've ruined somebody's year. What is one person to do? Some would say, "Go get somebody else. Show her you aren't 'down for the count'." Others would say, "Trust God. He'll get you through." What happens when God is silent about the issue for a little while? What if His voice is as soft as the wind and to hear it, one must seeking it? What does one do?
Personally, God brought me to the edge. He broke my will and my plans. He broke every single truth I had known to be true. He broke my future. This breaking, or reforming of concrete (however you wish to view it), took time...and it all had to slowly break past walls of emotional and psychological defense in order to achieve maximum potency. When it actually does/did climax, what does one do with oneself? One has to get on their knee's and submit the authority and control of your life to the only One who is capable of properly handling it.
God brings everybody to this point multiple times in a lifetime. It serves a purpose. The purpose is to bring about the realization that you need to devote every thing to God and to His perfect will. Without God's timing or God's blessing, can one truly be happy or secure? Remember, as John the Apostle said, "I must decrease, and Christ must increase." Or perhaps as Jesus said, "Those that seek to gain life shall lose it, but those who lose their life for Me shall gain life." This is a mandate from God, both through His Son and through His apostle and disciple to all the lands. We are to submit ourselves, our very lives, to Him and because of that decision, God will give us life. Life as we are meant to live it. Granted, we are sinful beings with evil natures but if we walk in truth and true security (which is complete surrender of earthly desires) then we can know peace and everlasting life.
When life turns to crap, there's a reason for it. It may not always be clearcut or easy to understand. But remember: hindsight is always 20-20. And if one is examining certain past experiences in life with God's help, hindsight is far more powerful than 20-20. Decrease yourselves to increase Christ within you and you will be rewarded with a life that is far more pure, far richer in love, and far greater in service to the Kingdom than your own fallen, evil mind can ever conceive. It is not you who lives, but Christ who lives within you.